Adoption and all the hoo-haa

I must be naive. Or maybe I just see the world in too many rainbows.

I have been reading blogs, (as I do a lot) and there was one woman blasted by posting a adoption terminology post. Keep in mind that she did not write it, she was researching and came across it. Well done to her for trying to be as educated about the process as possible for the child she welcomes into her life.

Now having said that, there were many many comments that were quite nasty to her. And so many negative ones. Now forgive me for my naivety, but I was under the impression that opening up your home to a child was a kind, loving and thoughtful thing. Apparently not. Apparently its a negative thing. There were posts about how selfish it is, that its a negative situation. There were a lot of really angry words from people who had been adopted and many who had adopted children. Am I just seeing this through rose colored glasses? In today's world (Im not talking 30-50 years ago), adoption is something that someone works really really hard to be accepted into and waits and waits praying that they may be given the greatest gift of becoming a parent. Now these people are condemned? What sort of world are we living in? These children for whatever reason, some good, some bad, were no longer able to be raised by their parents and are placed with people who want nothing more than to raise them. How is this a negative thing? I know I'm rambling here, following no real sequence, but I'm just so frustrated.

In Australia, we don't have the option of inter-country adoption, and overseas adoption is near impossible. Personally, we are having to choose between buying a home or getting IVF, and chances are we will choose IVF. Now if a child was placed with me, from what ever circumstance, how could it be negative. I would raise that child with all the love possible, in a safe, stable environment. Please tell me this is a bad thing?

There were also saying that parenting is so much harder then trying for a baby. Maybe it is, but I'll swap a 16 year old rebellious teenager any day, with my current prospect of living without children. Fine...tell me its harder, but lets wait until I have a child in my arms, because right now, this is the biggest struggle I have ever had to face...and Ive had to face a few.